Non-physical Signs of Domestic Violence

Last year the first season of the “Big Little Lies” series appeared on the screens, it tells about a married couple whose relationship is full of violence and disrespect for each other, starting from small quarrels to physical abuse.

The TV series reflects the situation in modern families. Statistics are severe, and it says that one in four women and one in seven men have been subjected to domestic violence. The theme of the warning signs of domestic violence is increasingly raised in the media, and in 2015, Twitter users even launched a flash mob in which they wrote stories about family life under the hashtags “WhyILeft” and “WhyIStayed.” Here are just some of the signs of domestic violence that you can notice in the family or relationships.

The main myth is that domestic violence is always physical one. If you are not getting beaten, then what’s the problem?  Domestic violence is defined as an example of power and control in a relationship. A person can control their partner in a variety of ways that are not physical.

  1. Constant checks.

There is a fine line between the normal and abusive relationships. If you constantly exchange messages with your partner, and you tell each other what you are doing, that’s normal. However, sincere care can be replaced by total control, when the partner wants to know around the clock where you are and what you are doing. It is very easy to recognize the early signs of domestic violence, you begin to feel guilty for all your actions.

  1. Isolation from friends and family.

One of the domestic violence signs and the early red flag is when a partner tries to isolate you from family, friends or some kind of activity. They can say that your friends are not good enough for you or that they have wrong views of life. You should remember that it becomes difficult to seek the support after the breakup.

  1. Charges of treason.

The abusive relationship is full of jealousy. An abusive partner can easily imagine that you are cheating on them, even if they don’t have any proof. In turn, you are trying to do your best to convince your partner that you don’t have any love affair. This adds even more stress to the relationship. You just do not want your partner thinks that you’re doing something wrong.

  1. Putting to shame.

In an abusive relationship, a partner can constantly put you to shame for everything, starting from the appearance and mental abilities to communicating with some people. In this way, the tyrant strengthens their power over the victim.

  1. Financial constraints.

Financial violence can take many forms, and the abusive partner has the ability to control the amounts to which you have access. It can be a limitation of credit cards or the number of hours in which you can work.

  1. Forced intercourse.

Intercourse is a big section of domestic violence. The abusive partner can put pressure on you that they deserve, or they can make you have love, saying that you must have love with them in order to “prove your love” or they will go elsewhere.

  1. Gaslighting.

This is a common form of emotional abuse, with the help of which the abusive partner can try to convince you that you are going crazy. Usually, the victim begins to question their own perception of the relationship. The whole purpose of gaslighting is to make someone lose their sense of reality.

  1. Cheating on a partner.

An abusive partner can intentionally cheat on you to blame you later for that and deliberately make you feel bad or to show how popular they are with other people.

  1. Request for the passwords.

An abusive partner can require your passwords to control you online. However, you should not share passwords with anyone if you do not want it.



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